讓你的思想遨游

1、UnitTwelveLetYourMindWer讓你的思想遨游Untilrecentlydaydreamingwasgenerallyconsideredeitherawasteoftimeasymptomofneurotictendencieshabitualdaydreamingwasregardedasevidenceofmaladjustmentanescapefromlifesrealitiesresponsibilities

2、.Itwasbelievedthathabitualdaydreamingwouldeventuallydistancepeoplefromsocietyreducetheireffectivenessincopingwithrealproblems.Atitsbestdaydreamingwasconsideredacompensatysubstituteftherealthingsinlife.直到最近白日做夢(mèng)通常被認(rèn)為是浪費(fèi)時(shí)間或

3、者是神經(jīng)官能癥傾向的一種癥狀，而習(xí)慣性的白日做夢(mèng)被認(rèn)為是精神失調(diào)或者逃避生活現(xiàn)實(shí)和責(zé)任的證據(jù)。人們相信，習(xí)慣性的白日做夢(mèng)最終會(huì)把人同社會(huì)疏遠(yuǎn)并降低他們?cè)谔幚韺?shí)際問題時(shí)的成效。白日做夢(mèng)最好也不過被認(rèn)為是對(duì)生活中實(shí)際事物的一種補(bǔ)償性的替代。Aswithanythingcarriedtoexcessdaydreamingcanbeharmful.Therearealwaysthosewhowouldsubstitutefantasylives

4、ftherewardsofrealactivity.Butsuchextremesarerelativelyrarethereisagrowingbodyofevidencetosupptthefactthatmostpeoplesufferfromalackofdaydreamingratherthananexcessofit.Wearenowbeginningtolearnhowvaluableitreallyisthatwheni

5、ndividualsarecompletelypreventedfromdaydreamingtheiremotionalbalancecanbedisturbed.Notonlyaretheylessabletodealwiththepressuresofdaytodayexistencebutalsotheirselfcontrolselfdirectionbecomeendangered.像任何事情過分都可能有害，白日做夢(mèng)也一樣。

6、總有那么一些人，他們用想入非非的生活來(lái)代替從實(shí)際活動(dòng)得到的好處。但是這類極端的情況較為罕見，愈來(lái)愈多的證據(jù)卻支持這樣一種現(xiàn)象，即大部分人受白日做夢(mèng)過少而不是過多之苦?，F(xiàn)在我們開始了解，白日做夢(mèng)如何真有價(jià)值并且人如果白日完全不做夢(mèng)，他們的情緒平衡會(huì)被打亂。不僅他們應(yīng)付每日生活的壓力的能力會(huì)變差，他們的自我控制和自我導(dǎo)向能力也會(huì)受到損害。Recentresearchindicatesthatdaydreamingispartofdailyl

7、ifethatacertainamounteachdayisessentialfmaintainingequilibrium.Daydreamingsciencehasdiscoveredisaneffectiverelaxationtechnique.Butitsbeneficialeffectsgobeyondthis.Experimentsshowthatdaydreamingsignificantlycontributestoi

8、ntellectualgrowthpowersofconcentrationtheabilitytointeractcommunicatewithothers.InanexperimentwithschoolchildreninNewYkDr.JoanFreybergobservedimprovedconcentration:“Therewaslessrunningaroundmehappyfeelingsmetalkingplayin

9、ginthegroupmeattentionpaidtodetail.“研究表明，白日做夢(mèng)是日常生活的一部分，每天白天做一定的夢(mèng)對(duì)保持情緒平衡是必不可少的，科學(xué)已經(jīng)發(fā)現(xiàn)，白日做夢(mèng)是一種有效的松弛辦法。但它的好處不只這些。試驗(yàn)證明，白日做夢(mèng)對(duì)智力發(fā)展、注意力集中和同別人的交往和溝通有相當(dāng)大的好處。通過用紐約的小學(xué)生做實(shí)驗(yàn)，瓊弗雷伯格觀察到孩子們的專心程度得到了改善：“跑來(lái)跑去的情況少了，愉快的心情多了，更多的人在一起談話和玩耍，對(duì)細(xì)節(jié)的注

10、意力增強(qiáng)了。InanotherexperimentatYaleUniversityDr.JeromeSingerfoundthatdaydreamingresultedinimprovedselfcontrolenhancedcreativethinkingability.DaydreamingSingerpointedoutisonewayindividualscanimproveuponreality.Itisheconcluded

11、apowerfulspur澤主張“你應(yīng)該想像你的未來(lái)?！彼嘈牛聵I(yè)成功大部分應(yīng)歸功于積極利用白日夢(mèng)。哈利杜魯門說(shuō)過，他把白日做夢(mèng)當(dāng)成一種休息?？道孪栴D還是個(gè)孩子的時(shí)候就夢(mèng)見過開旅館。他回憶說(shuō)，他的全部成就最早都是在想像中實(shí)現(xiàn)的?！癎reatlivingstartswithapictureheldinsomepersonsimaginationofwhathewouldlikesomedaytodobe.FlenceNightin

12、galedreamedofbeinganurse.Edisonpicturedhimselfaninventallsuchactersescapedthemerepushofcircumstancebyimaginingafuturesovividlythattheyheadedfit.“ThesearethewdsofthewellknownthinkerDr.HarryEmersonFosdicktheyshowthatpeople

13、canliterallydaydreamthemselvestosuccess.Fosdickawareofthewonderfulpowerofpositivedaydreamingofferedthisadvice:“Holdapictureofyourselflongsteadilyenoughinyourmindseyeyouwillbedrawntowardit.Pictureyourselfvividlyasdefeated

14、thatalonewillmakevictyimpossible.Pictureyourselfaswinningthatwillcontributeremarkablytosuccess.Donotpictureyourselfasanythingyouwilldriftlikeanabonedshipatsea.““偉大的生活起始于一個(gè)人在想像中幻想自己有朝一日能做出什么事業(yè)或成為什么人物。弗洛倫斯—南丁格爾夢(mèng)想能成為一名護(hù)士。愛迪

15、生把自己想成一名發(fā)明家。所有這些人都如此生動(dòng)地幻想自己的未來(lái)，朝著這個(gè)即定方向前進(jìn)，從而避免了單純地受環(huán)境的推動(dòng)?！边@是著名的思想家哈利愛默生福斯迪克所說(shuō)的話。這些話說(shuō)明，人確實(shí)可以通過幻想自己而取得成就。福斯迪克知道積極的白日夢(mèng)的神奇作用，提出了如下的意見：“如果你經(jīng)久地、堅(jiān)定地在你的想像中給自己描繪一個(gè)形象，你將會(huì)被引往這個(gè)形象。你如果把自己生動(dòng)地幻想成一個(gè)戰(zhàn)敗者，單單這一點(diǎn)就能使勝利成為不可能。你要把自己幻想成一個(gè)勝利者，這將顯著

16、地有助你取得成就。你要是什么也不幻想自己，你將像一條被遺棄的船，在大海上四處漂泊。”Togettheresultsyoushouldpictureyourself—asvividlyaspossible—asyouwanttobe.Theimptantthingtorememberistopicturethesedesiredobjectivesasifyouhadalreadyattainedthem.Gooverseveraltim

17、esthedetailsofthesepictures.Thiswilldeeplyimpressthemonyourmemythesememytraceswillsoonstartinfluencingyoureverydaybehavitowardtheattainmentofthegoal.Whileexercisingyourimaginationyoushouldbealonecompletelyundisturbed.Som

18、eindividualsseemtohavetheabilitytotuneintotheirprivateselvesinthestofthenoisiestcrowdscompany.Butmostofusespeciallywhentheexperienceisnewrequireanenvironmentfreefromoutsidedistraction.如想得到期望的結(jié)果，你應(yīng)把自己——盡可能生動(dòng)地——幻想成你要成為的人。重

19、要的是要記住，你幻想這些期望的目標(biāo)時(shí)就好像你已經(jīng)實(shí)現(xiàn)了他們那樣。要把幻想的細(xì)節(jié)在腦子里反復(fù)想幾遍，這樣它們會(huì)深深地印在你的記憶中，而這些記憶的痕跡將很快影響你每天的行為去實(shí)現(xiàn)你的目標(biāo)。在幻想的時(shí)候，你應(yīng)該獨(dú)處一處，完全不受外界干擾。有些人能做到在非常喧鬧的人群中調(diào)節(jié)自己，進(jìn)人自我。但我們中的大多數(shù)人，特別當(dāng)我們這樣做還感到生疏時(shí)，需要有一個(gè)不受外界干擾的環(huán)境。Alifelivedwithoutfantasydaydreamingisas

20、eriouslyimpoverishedone.Eachofusshouldputasideafewminutesdailytakingsht1015minutevacations.Daydreamingishighlybeneficialtoyourphysicalmentalwellbeingyouwillfindthatthismodestinexpensiveinvestmentintimewilladduptoamecreat